Len Smolen M.S.

As someone with the interest and courage to follow your heart, you find there are a number of questions that arise with a need for objective, educated, unbiased and helpful answers as you proceed to explore a new path in relationships. I have many years of experience with alternative lifestyles. My approach is to listen to YOU - there is not a simple answer for everyone. You need YOUR solution, not everyone else’s. I will listen thoroughly, discuss, and then offer all possible options for you to make an informed decision. I offer ideas that have worked for others in the poly lifestyle and allow you to pick and choose.

What are not as apparent as ideas are the various feelings that subtly arise - fears, doubts, jealousy, anxiety, anger, depression…and all need to be recognized, processed and understood. We aren’t as aware of our feelings as we are of our ideas and thoughts, and feelings drive our behavior. We act out at times and don’t understand why, or where that behavior came from. Understanding is the best management process - you can't control what you don’t understand.

My fees are reasonable - I will work with you so that the fee doesn’t interfere with your receiving the assistance you need. I respect your individual desires, needs and wants. I am available for a brief phone interview.