Shae Harmon

I’m a qualified sex and relationship therapist focusing on the queer community. My specialities are helping people understand their journeys with gender, sexuality, polyamory/non-monogamy and kink. I also have specialised training in sexual function issues. I see individuals and partners(2+). I’m ND, trans, non-binary, polyamorous and disabled, and have been existing at the intersections of these communities for over 10 years.

I approach my clients “pluralistically”, which means that I work collaboratively with you on the methods and interventions that might suit your specific experience and issues. I am humanistic and relational, and draw from various models and tools to see what might fit. I don’t judge and I will always be curious.

I also believe it is essential to work with an intersectional and anti-oppressive lens and will always be open to differences in lived experience. I won’t expect you to educate me and I will not pathologise, judge you or make assumptions about your experiences.

Whether it is two partners or more in a relationship — communication is key, but it sounds harder than it is in practice. I can help you and your partner(s) understand each others’ needs and find ways to work together, whether that is to help resolve conflict, improve trust and connection, work towards a more pleasureful sex life, open-up your relationship, or even come to an amicable ending of the relationship. It does not have to be an explicitly sexual issue you want to work on - it can be any issues that are coming up in your relationship.

I am also sex work, neurodivergence, kink and disability friendly. If there is anything I can do to accommodate any needs you might have, please ask.